Happy 2 years!

It is nice to see, that we've reached so far.. Well, at least for us :) Those two years were lovely and tough at the same time. Sure culture and long distance relationship didn't make everything easier. But both of us are still able to support each other. I think, we try to build a relationship like two mature adults. Each of us put effort, so that our communication stays stable.

Last Saturday, Thomas took me on a dinner. He booked Pinnochio before telling me. I was surprised and happy for the whole week. Thomas had never reserved table for our date. Before we went together for a mass in the hospital chappel in Jülich. Guess what! We had to sit right behind the altar. My head was full of uncertainty and fear, because I don't think Thomas would like it. But that was the only place left for two! At the end of the mass, the priest came to us and asked, whether we felt okay sitting behind the altar. So nice of him! I think Thomas did enjoy the mass somehow ;) Dinner was also nice. I got my risotto and Thomas ate house speciality. We were so full :) And yeah, we were so lucky, that despite of having no tickets, we were allowed to enter the 'concert' (casting for jazz day in Düren). Christian and his new girlfried were also there. There were 5 performances. The first was from Stimm So, an acapella group. They did pretty good! I love them. The second was uh-oh... over self-confident. The third was a girl from Dormagen playing guitar. She sang really well and was cute. The fourth was The Tideline who performed at Jazz Day in Düren last year. The last was a David Bowie tribute band. They fulfilled the stage. Gosh. I think they were ok (but they were quite loud), but I didn't expect them to win. I prefered the acapella group. But ok, if this tribute band won, what should I do. I won't go to the juries and influence them to choose the first group. Haha. However, I don't think I would ever like David Bowie's music.... Sorry, David... We took taxi from Jülich to Floßdorf and I have to say: I underestimated the taxi cost. I used taxi from Linnich to Jülich and it cost me around 15€. But that night, we had to pay 24€! Ooops, sorry, Thomas. The rest of the night was also nice. We watched the mentalist, but after 1,5 episodes I (as always) felt asleep. Thomas woke me up and didn't get off my back and giggled  me until I gave up. Menno.

Thank you to have understood, loved and supported me with all your heart during these 2 years.

I am grateful to have met you in my life and that you're part of my life. I learned so much from you, and hope I can learn more...

Cheers, for us and amazing years ahead!

Indonesians' Blah Blah Culture: Virginity

Indonesians and their "eastern" culture are sometimes just weird. It is taboo to kiss your partner in public (especially when you're not married). In some regions, you are even forbidden to use short skirt and as women you have to use headscarf. No boyfriend or girlfriend staying over at home. So to say: no sex before marriage. 

Well; I would say: I get enough of this. For me now it's just a blah blah culture. Why am I saying that? My age is a quite ideal age to get married. At least in our country.  Yes, I'm still trying to respect this kind of culture. But the fact is, a lot of women I know were giving birth after 5 or 6 months after the marriage. This is totally disappointing.. Does pregnancy become a  part of our 'everything-is-fast-and-instant' culture?

I'm just saying: this is the weakness of our culture. Girls are not even told to go to GE (gynaecologist), just because: we may not do sex before marriage. I'm not underestimating the culture, but we have to be realistic seeing that a lot of young couples are having sex secretly, in any places parents don't know. I know that the chance of interracial couples having sex are bigger (yeah yeah, I know if you're thinking about me having sex. Whatever.), but here I'm talking about indonesian with indonesian, whose culture is exactly the same! Put this one in mind: the more you are forbidden, the more you want to break the rule. It happens always. So in my opinion: it's better to teach girls (hey, even we never talked about it in Sanur), how to protect themselves while making love. Go to GE, ask for contraception pills. Girls, if you can't control boys for always using condoms, but you have to protect yourself and your future. Once you have to get married, when you're not ready, your life is not gonna be the same anymore. So, girls, please protect yourself!