Marriage

I think I'm gonna make time again sharing something that suddenly popped out of my mind. This came out actually from the conversation between me and Ega. Both of us have usually different mind but the funny thing that we can just share it with each other even we were on the street. Well, we talked in Indonesian, so basically almost nobody understood us, but this time I would like to share it in English, so everybody would be able to read und understand.

When we come to the topic "Marriage" is just a huge huge thing to be discuss without end. Single women (including me) are worried about marriage. It's something that essential though theoretical as long as one is not yet married.

Personally, I'm grateful to be born in a catholic family. And one of the reason I have been kept on this religion is the gospel "Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate". I believe basically every religion doesn't expect or allow a divorce, right? But maybe (again, this is subjective) Catholic has the most complicated procedure for those who are wishing to get divorce.

I have the principle that marriage is one in a lifetime. Some people say, it's allowed to get divorce in case of betrayal or affair or anything else. When I and Ega came up to discuss this, it was going to be hard, because Ega is for and I'm against. Well, again, this is theoretical, we haven't been in a marriage, but we both just learned from our parents and from what life has showed us.

We learned that marriage life is something private. You're not anymore two, but one. It's basically like how you behave even in normal life. It's like if you can smile through the whole day so that everyone thinks that you're fine but you're actually not. Marriage is about solving problem between you, trusting and being trustable and faithful. If you've ever had a long happy marriage, there's no reason for the other people to know that you're having problems with your husband/wife.

Marriage is once in a lifetime, is about being together til death tears you apart.

Nothing is easy and smoothing going on in this world. So does marriage. Get divorce easily like the celebrities did, is totally a kind of "giving up" or "escaping from difficulties" Man, there's nothing easy in this world. People are learning from life itself. Youth are being mature, from how they handle with problems and not escaping from reality.

Like you try to make a good impression of yourself in front of people, I think, that's also valid for marriage life. Give people a good impression of you as a pair and don't tell them about your badness or weakness.
Because you're not anymore two, but one. People will see you as one also. So, if you tell them your husband's /wife's badness or weakness, you are telling them your badness.

I believe that getting married is just like another step of life. It's beautiful if you can see, realize and be grateful for that :)

Falling in You

It was you. Yeah it was you

who makes me fallin and fallin again

If you know

how hard I tried to make these butterflies in my stomach die

then you should know

how easy you have made them live again

If you know

how hard I tried to doctrine myself not hoping on your love

then you should know

how easy you broke the hope down just everytime I see you

It was you. yeah it was you

who makes me fallin and fallin

I like it. for no reason.

But will you catch me while I'm fallin?

Will you help me standing after all?

It was you. yeah it was you

who makes me fallin and fallin

but I like it. for no reason.

Diingatkan Kembali

Kemarin saya membantu teman-teman saya menscan lembaran untuk rosario. Kebetulan mama dulu mengirim buku itu dan kebetulan juga bukunya kok sama, dengan yang dipakai teman-teman yang sudah rajin rosario di KMKI. Pas menscan itu, saya tidak sengaja membaca lagi kover belakang buku. Ada kata-kata indah favorit saya yang selama ini ternyata terlupakan. Begini bunyinya:

Tuhan takkan terlambat

juga takkan lebih cepat

semuanya....

Dia jadikan indah tepat pada waktuNya

Tuhan takkan terlambat

juga tak akan lebih cepat

ajarlah kami setia selalu menanti waktuMu Tuhan

(Pengkhotbah 3:11)

Hari ini saya mendapatkan kesempatan emas untuk tanya 1 dari 100 pertanyaan yang bolak balik pop out di kepala buat ditanyain ke si G****r. Satu aja cukup kayaknya (untuk menggugurkan pertanyaan yang lain).

G: *ngoceh soal Essen*

D: "oh tapi ga ada student ya?"

G: "yah udah rada2 lebih tua sih kaya gw lah,tapi kan kita terbuka buat siapa aja" *aha*

D: "emang lw umur berapa?" *harap2 cemas*

G: 39

*anjriiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttt*

Sepertinya saya ditegur. Diingatkan lagi untuk berpasrah.. Saya tahu banget kata-kata ini, dan selama ini saya juga suka mengingatkan diri saya untuk bersabar. Sayangnya saya *entah kenapa* ga bisa sabar. Sampai-sampai saya sendiri sempat beberapa kali berdoa begini:

"Tuhan, aku tau Engkau menyiapkan semuanya indah pada waktuMu. Aku percaya itu. Aku tau aku hanya harus sabar. Tapi aku kok ga bisa, Tuhan. (kyna aku kepo banget pengen tau siapa jodohku nanti hehehe) Ajarkanlah aku untuk lebih sabar menantikan waktuMu"

Ajarlah aku setia selalu menanti waktuMu Tuhan

Someday my prince will come :)

Hei, I wanna greet all the singles!! I got this link from my best friend, Eca.
I think you should read it. Well it's her sharing how to choose the mr./miss right and how you deal with it.

The best part in my opinion is when she wrote that we could and should pray for him/her. Let God guide you and him/her.

So, Eca and I were on skype last week, and we talked about it. We made a list, how my future husband should be, for instance: catholic, finished (at least) his bachelor, get a good job,not smoking, etc, etc. and we made a deal, to start praying for our future husband together.

Well, I put some addition in my prayer:
"God, I believe that you have prepared all the things for me, including soulmate. I just can pray, God, I don't know yet who he is, but I'm sure that we'll meet each other in Your time, and in that time all will be just so beautiful. So God, please guide him in all his way and please help me prepared myself to be a good future wife." unyu kan? hahaha :) God, I just can't wait too long <3

Hence, you singles, shouldn't be pessimistic, but optimist. God answers you in His time. His answer might not come immediatelly but it will never be late. Just believe :)